The Gospel According to Me. And You. And you, and you, and...

Philip baptizing the Ethiopian eunuch (image generated by Google Gemini with prompt)

I grew up in a conservative, evangelical Christian denomination where sharing the gospel broadly meant convincing a nonbeliever or sinner to confess their sins, pray the sinner’s prayer, accept Jesus Christ as their personal lord and savior, and become a part of the church in order to avoid eternal torment in the lake of fire. Lord have mercy on your soul if you later sinned and died without repenting because that meant an eternity of pain and agony for you.

Now, in daily practice, our church was not very much like that. The people were kind and supportive of one another. They welcomed strangers and withheld judging “sinners” such as divorced people and unwed mothers, at least to their faces. In our house, religious talk was more about doing what was right in the world through kindness and generosity than it was about hell and torment. For that, I am very grateful.

But as I grew older and ventured outside the bubble of family and local church, I encountered more evangelical followers, and the message when it came to the gospel was mostly the same: repent or spend an eternity separated from God; in other words, turn or burn.

Thankfully, my opinion on what the good news of the gospel of Jesus Christ is has radically transformed over the years, due in large part to my coming to terms with my sexuality and accepting myself for who I am, then finding fellow followers of the Way of Jesus who accept me for who I am. It has also been transformed by my interactions with people who love and follow Jesus outside of the evangelical world. I no longer see the kin-dom of God (here I use kin-dom instead of kingdom to be more gender-inclusive and to de-emphasize monarchical metaphors because I live in 2026 CE and not the first century AD) as a far-away, yet-to-be-realized spiritual world, but a here-and-now reality accessible to anyone who will choose love over fear and greed (two things which I personally believe are at the root of all sin, which is anything which separates us from God, who is love). The Good News of Jesus Christ is that God loves us, wants us, and desires us to love one another (and God’s creation, I believe) without condition. Jesus gave us two commandments: love God with everything we are, and love others as we love ourselves. And Jesus made it very clear that this kin-dom includes everyone: Jews, Gentiles, Samaritans, men, women, slaves and free people – everyone. Period.

As a gay man, the story of the Ethiopian eunuch in Acts chapter 8, verses 26 through 40 resonates especially strongly. In the story, a high-ranking official from the land of Kush, which covered what is present-day Sudan and southern Egypt, has traveled about 1000 miles to Jerusalem to worship. In that time, Gentiles who worshipped the God of the Jews were known as God-fearers. However, this eunuch was excluded from full participation in the life of the Jewish faith for two reasons: first, he was a Gentile foreigner, not of any tribe of Israel; and second, he was a eunuch, so he had to remain with Gentiles and other “unclean” individuals in the outer courts of the temple. This resonates with me because for hundreds of years, LGBTQIA+ individuals have been excluded from full participation in the life of the church. Even today, Christian denominations split up because some congregants simply cannot accept anyone who is not heterosexual or cisgender into their community. Sad. They are missing an immense blessing from the talents and gifts of LGBTQIA+ people.

Back to the story of the eunuch: while travelling back to his homeland from Jerusalem, the unnamed eunuch is reading a scroll upon which is written the book of Isaiah, which contains prophesies about the Messiah. Philip, one of the disciples of Jesus (not the apostle Philip who personally knew Jesus) is called by the Holy Spirit to catch up with the eunuch. When he does, the eunuch invites him into his chariot to explain the writings of Isaiah to him. When they come upon a body of water, the eunuch exclaims, “What is to prevent me from being baptized?” So Philip takes him down to the water, baptizes him into the church, or the body of Christ, and the eunuch goes on his way, carrying the good news to his people in Kush and thereby further spreading the gospel to Gentile lands.

It's important to note that Isaiah 56 prophecies that faithful eunuchs would receive “a monument and a name better than sons and daughters.” No doubt the Ethiopian eunuch had read this prophecy and viewed it with great hope for the future of others like him. Little did he know that he would be one of the first individuals baptized into the full fellowship of the body of Christ, thus fulfilling the prophecy he had been reading about! This is very significant on several levels. The Ethiopian eunuch not only represents a sexual or gender minority, but also foreigners, Gentiles, and dark-skinned peoples. The eunuch was also embedded in a socially stratified system in which he gained some privileges and power but would have never been accepted as a fully equal member of his society. You see, the gospel or good news to the Ethiopian eunuch was full inclusion and acceptance, not after some ridiculously time-consuming study or a majority vote by the members of a governing council or congregation, but already by God’s love and grace through Christ. He didn’t need a council’s seal of approval; he only needed God’s, which had already been given to him.

The story of the Ethiopian eunuch is an illustration of God’s radically inclusive love and acceptance of every kind of human being. Whether the eunuch was made a eunuch or born a eunuch is irrelevant. No one needed to see his birth certificate. No one asked him to lift up his robes and prove anything. No one expected him to stop being a eunuch or looking like a eunuch or acting like a eunuch. He had already been accepted by God, and his baptism by Philip was symbolic of his acceptance into the church, the body of Christ.

How many other people have been marginalized by the church through the centuries? Differently abled people. Racial and ethnic minorities. Women. The poor. People struggling with mental illness. Single parents. Divorcees. The list could go on. I guess the church of the first few centuries after Jesus’ time grew so fast because it was so welcoming and inclusive. Women held leadership roles. Gentiles and Samaritans were welcomed. The sick and the poor received help. The hungry were fed. The unhoused were sheltered. The church was a movement, not an institution. And move it did, all across the ancient world, with its emphasis on love and community…until the pagan Roman emperor Constantine fucked it up by making it the official religion of the empire, and we’re still putting it back together today. But that’s a topic for another essay.

To the sick, the good news is healing. To the poor, the good news is abundance. To the hungry, the good news is food. To the marginalized, the good news is community. To the doubter, the good news is validation. To the unemployed, the good news is work. And overarching all of these is the good news of God’s love, grace, and acceptance of us. All God asks in return is our love for God and for each other.

We each receive the good news of Jesus Christ through the lens of our own life experience, just like the Ethiopian eunuch did. For me, it was the good news that I was accepted and loved by God for who I am. For all of us, it’s the knowledge that Jesus abolished whatever barriers kept us from full kinship with God, whether those barriers were of our own creation or were imposed on us by ungodly systems like imperialism, patriarchy, racism, sexism, classism, homophobia, and transphobia.

My life in Christ is the Gospel According to Me. You have the Gospel According to You. If others won’t hear your good news, then do as Jesus instructed his apostles: shake the dust from your feet and move on. Jesus also instructed his followers not to cast their pearls before swine, lest the pearls be tramped down in the mud and muck of the pigsty. Not everyone is ready to hear your good news. Many are still enslaved to ways of thinking that are rooted in the lies and manipulations of those who hold power and wealth. So don’t waste your time trying to convince people whose minds are already made up about you and your testimony. God will deal with them in God’s own way and in God’s own time. Forget them and go share your good news with those who are ready to hear it.

Practicing Good Spiritual Health

Health and wellness are popular topics, as they should be. We all need to care for ourselves to be our best for ourselves and for others and to enhance the quality of our lives as well as the lives of those whom we care about.

The first aspect of holistic health and wellness that comes to most people’s minds is probably physical health. Fitness and nutrition are huge industries globally, not to mention medicine and healthcare. Our very lives can depend on how well we take care of our bodies. Mental health also gets a lot of attention, especially with younger generations, as they have grown up in a culture that has destigmatized discussions of mental health to a great degree. Social health is another aspect that deserves all the attention it gets. We all live in community with others, and the value of healthy social networks and societies is indisputable.

However, an aspect of holistic health that doesn’t get much airtime is spiritual health. It’s almost as if people are afraid to discuss their spirituality. I believe this is due in large part to our human tendency to judge others whose beliefs and opinions differ from our own, especially when ours represent the status quo. In the United States, that would be traditional forms of Christianity, such as Catholicism, mainline Protestantism, and evangelicalism. How ironic that we who follow a teacher who taught “Do not judge” are some of the most judgmental people!

Personally, I believe strong spiritual health is the foundation for other aspects of health. We can look at human history to see how spiritually unhealthy societies and their leaders resulted in great suffering for many: empires ruled by cruel despots; genocidal dictatorships; fascist regimes; and billionaire autocrats with only their own self interests in mind. In all these cases, it is the poor and the oppressed, or “the least of these,” as Jesus called them, who suffer the most. On an individual level, we see spiritually unhealthy people pursuing pathways of greed, exploitation, hoarding, and selfishness, using fear, intimidation, and manipulation to get what they want, regardless of who gets hurt in the process.

It’s important at this point to define spirituality and distinguish it from religiosity. Spirituality can be defined in many ways, and very often people will resort to a religious context in defining it because that is the context in which billions of people experience spirituality. However, spirituality need not be confined to a religious context. In its broader sense, spirituality can be defined as that aspect of a person’s sense of self which is concerned with purpose, meaning, and connection to that which is beyond the self. For most, that which is beyond the self is God—or a deity or deities of some sort—but might also be the universe, nature, the collective consciousness, or whatever one thinks of the great Mystery that cannot be easily explained. In fact, I would assert that those who can easily explain that Mystery are not, in fact, well acquainted with it. Certitudes are rarely characteristic of healthy spirituality. Certitudes are actually characteristic of religiosity, which focuses on dogma and doctrine, both of which usually get in the way of developing a healthy spirituality. Religiosity is concerned with proving that one’s doctrine and dogma are correct, and all other doctrines and dogmas are not. Many strongly religious people are not very spiritual, and many strongly spiritual people claim no religious affiliation.

Healthy spirituality grows beyond doctrine and dogma. Spiritually healthy people are able to keep that from their religious tradition which is good and healthy for them while rejecting that which is not without experiencing a crisis of faith. In fact, some might claim that their faith increased once they let go of religiosity. They find freedom in letting go of certitudes such as those found in doctrine and dogma and embracing ambiguity, mystery, and questions. Doubt is seen not as a sin, but rather as an opportunity for growth. For some this means leaving religion altogether, but for many it means finding other spiritual seekers within their faith traditions and nurturing one another’s growth in community.

So then, what are the hallmarks of a spiritually healthy individual? We might look at what various faith traditions have in common when it comes to the traits displayed by a spiritually healthy person. In the Christian tradition, many of us would cite the fruits of the Holy Spirit as such hallmarks: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. We’ve all seen people, Christian and otherwise, who consistently display these traits in their lives and think of them as enlightened or self-actualized people. We hold them up as examples to follow. No doubt Buddhists, Sikhs, Jews, Muslims, Hindus, and other faith traditions hold similar traits in high value. One need not be an adherent of the Christian religion to embody these traits, and Christians should not judge those from other faith traditions who embody these traits, for the Christian Bible states, “Against such things there is no law.” In other words, these are good things to embody! In a secular, humanistic context, we might find very similar traits held in high esteem. After all, who can deny that love, above all, is to be valued and nurtured? No one, even though some in the media today call empathy a sin. That right there is an indication of that individual’s poor state of spiritual health. Empathy, i.e. compassion, a.k.a. mercy, is never a bad trait to embody. Greater love results in greater empathy, and empathy feeds spiritual health.

How does one practice good spiritual health? Opinions vary, but here are my suggestions:

• Spend time in solitude regularly. Dedicate time and space where you can sit with yourself and listen for what Christians call the “still, small voice” within you. Block out the noise of daily life as much as you can. For me, such time is when I journal. Journaling can be done in many ways: free writing, doodling, mind mapping, bulleting…whatever works for you. And for some, simply sitting in silence and focusing on breathwork does the trick. Find what works for you, and commit to doing it as regularly as you can.

• Connect with nature. Some Christians say creation is the first incarnation of God. Jesus Himself went into the wilderness to pray and replenish Himself, and in His most troubling hour, where did he go? Not the temple, not a palace, but a garden. Other faith traditions, especially Buddhism, stress the role of nature in experiencing that mystery beyond oneself. If spirituality is the effort to connect with the divine, then surely the divine can be found in nature.

• Find your community of fellow spiritual seekers. Surrounding yourself with like-minded people who are on their own paths of spiritual discovery and growth cannot be over-emphasized. Just be sure it is a healthy community that welcomes questions and doubts and doesn’t force doctrine and dogma upon you. In such a community you can find confidantes, mentors, and supporters, as well as inspiration and fellowship.

• Be flexible. Keep an open mind. Don’t be afraid of change. Growth is change, after all, and growth is the goal, is it not? Release unhelpful beliefs and attitudes. Just because something is familiar and comfortable doesn’t mean it’s good for you.

• Cultivate empathy. Be compassionate not only to others, but also to yourself, to the environment, and even to God (or whatever you call the Mystery). Empathy is grace in action. You can show grace in acts of service to your community and by supporting organizations that help relieve human and environmental suffering.

• Get comfortable with ambiguity. This may be difficult for some personalities who desire data, facts, evidence, and answers. Spirituality is more about the questions than the answers, more about the mystery than the resolution, more about the gray areas than the black-and-white ones. Settling into ambiguity can be freeing.

• Detach from doctrine, dogma, bad habits, certitudes, and your fears and insecurities. I’m not saying to reject everything you’ve been taught. Quite the contrary, it’s sometimes good to revisit what you were taught as a child and hold it up to the lens of your own life experience and identify that which still has value for you and lay aside that which doesn’t. That will be very uncomfortable for most of us, but it’s a valuable exercise in spiritual growth.

• Dedicate yourself to spiritual growth. It will take time and energy. It requires an insatiable curiosity to learn and grow. And as with all learning experiences, there will be dissonance between what you think you know and what you uncover in your spiritual growth pursuits. Persevere. Don’t give up. And don’t fall back into the confines of certitudes and religiosity. That will stunt your spiritual growth.

• Exercise creativity. Cast aside your inhibitions. Use your imagination. Be playful, even childlike. Didn’t Jesus Himself say, “Unless you become like one of these [little children], you cannot enter the kingdom of heaven”? Have fun in your spiritual pursuits. Fun creates joy, which, in the Christian tradition, is one of the traits of a spiritually healthy person.

Spirituality is something not easily measured and defined by the social and natural sciences, so much of what you’ve read here are my own thoughts based on my readings and life experiences. Whatever your faith tradition, or lack thereof, and however you think of spirituality, we can all agree that good traits are good traits, no matter the religious or cultural context. Nurture those traits. Encourage others to find and nurture their own set of traits that indicate good spiritual health. I strongly believe if we do so, our mental, physical, and social health will improve, as well. And if we as individuals become more spiritually healthy, then our societies will benefit, as well.

EXPLORING PERSONALITY

When I was a child, I became interested in personalities once I was old enough to understand that I was a Sagittarius, with a personality distinct from the other eleven zodiac signs. I didn’t put too much stock into the description at the time because I didn’t feel it really fit me. Then again, probably none of the descriptions really fit me because my personality was still taking shape. My dad, a level-headed pragmatist, did believe that one’s birth sign could have an influence on one’s growth and development because he firmly believed in planting his garden crops according to the signs in the Old Farmer’s Almanac (and his garden always yielded an abundance despite his investing little time and effort in it). In his mind, if the arrangement of the stars and the planets could affect the development of a plant, why not also a person? 

In college I took the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator for the first time. I believe my results may have indicated Introverted-iNtuitive-Feeling-Perceiving at the time, but I can’t remember for sure. Throughout the years I’ve taken the assessment multiple times, both officially and unofficially, and each time the results indicate clear preferences for Extroversion-iNtuition-Feeling-Perceiving. 

More lately I’ve learned about the Enneagram concept of personalities. I’ve only taken an Enneagram assessment a few times, but I’m pretty consistent in demonstrating that I’m a Type 7, the Enthusiast.

I know that personality psychologists mostly debunk all of the above paradigms, except perhaps for some who give the MBTI the credit it’s due. Still, I find it fascinating that now in my 60’s, I can see clear alignment among these three personality indicators. Even my results on the Five Factor Traits of Personalities, which is more widely accepted by personality psychologists, aligns with my zodiac, MBTI, and Enneagram descriptions. According to the Five Factor model, my strongest preferences are for Openness, Extraversion, and Agreeableness. My weakest? Conscientiousness. I chalk that up to my restless, independent, exploratory nature.

I asked ChatGPT to tell me what my zodiac, MBTI, and Enneagram personality preferences have in common. Following is what it gave me:

ENFP (Extraverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Perceiving), Sagittarius, and Enneagram 7 all share a common energetic, adventurous, and free-spirited nature. Here’s how they align:

1. Love for Freedom & Adventure

• ENFPs thrive on spontaneity, new experiences, and personal growth.

• Sagittarius is known as the explorer of the zodiac, always seeking knowledge, travel, and expansion.

• Enneagram 7s are "The Enthusiasts," constantly chasing excitement and avoiding boredom.

2. Optimism & High Energy

• ENFPs are naturally enthusiastic and see possibilities everywhere.

• Sagittarius is ruled by Jupiter, the planet of optimism and abundance.

• Type 7s are known for their upbeat attitude and ability to reframe negatives into positives.

3. Restless & Easily Bored

• ENFPs can struggle with long-term commitment and need variety.

• Sagittarius is notorious for being noncommittal, always looking for the next thrill.

• Enneagram 7s avoid pain and discomfort by seeking distractions and new experiences.

4. Deep but Playful Thinkers

• ENFPs may seem lighthearted, but they have deep philosophical sides.

• Sagittarius loves intellectual discussions, especially about meaning and truth.

• Type 7s are curious and love diving into new ideas, though they may not always follow through deeply.

Overall, this combo is full of life, thrives on possibilities, and seeks excitement, meaning, and joy at every turn.

I can honestly say that I agree with ChatGPT’s summary 100%.

1. Love for Freedom and Adventure: While I in no way consider myself to be a risk-taking thrill-seeker, I do love new experiences and cultural adventures. I also abhor tight schedules and rigid rules. Give me flexibility and room to explore and do my own thing in my own way in my own time.

2. Optimism and High Energy: I channel the spirit of Pollyanna, the indefatigable look-on-the-bright-side girl in the famous story by Eleanor Hodgman Porter and the eponymous classic Disney film. I can find the silver lining behind almost any cloud. And while I’ve never considered myself “high energy,” my mind—especially my imagination—seems to be constantly turning and spinning with ideas.

3. Restless and Easily Bored: Absolutely me. I loathe long car rides and flights, waiting rooms, queues—you name it. If it eats up my time, I don’t like it. The only lines worth waiting in are for something really, really worth it to me. Some might call me a scanner, constantly surveying the horizon for the next new, interesting thing to focus my attention on.

4. Deep but Playful Thinkers: As I said above, my mind is constantly turning with ideas and scenarios. I adore “What if” questions and have always been a ponderer. Even as a child, I was somewhat of a spiritual seeker. As an adult that manifested in becoming a strong fan of franchises such as Star Trek and Star Wars. Don’t ask me how I know, but I just know that we’re not alone in the universe, that cryptids are real, and that magic exists. OK, I don’t know know, but I have very strong hunches about things and enjoy digging into the mysteries of the multiverse.

In my opinion, personalities are something deeper than mere neuroscience can explain. To me, they represent an aspect of ourselves that I would call spiritual, and that’s what makes them hard to measure with pure science. My personality is the essence of who I am, that piece that makes me recognizable and distinct, both in positive and negative terms. The positive aspects are my strengths, like optimism, imagining possibilities, seeking wisdom and knowledge, and seeing connections between people, things, and events. The negative aspects, like becoming easily bored and constantly shifting my attention among things, keep me humble and remind me that I’m not perfect and will always have something to work on.

If you’d like to know more about personalities in terms of MBTI and Enneagram, head over to www.truity.com for some free assessments. The free reports will be enough to get you started on your self-exploration journey, and the paid reports are inexpensive and more detailed. Just remember, any general personality assessment is merely a tool to help us understand ourselves better.

I hope you enjoy getting to know yourself as much as I have enjoyed my own journey of self-discovery and growth through personalities.

MJ Isham

March 2025

Bless Your Heart

I have always struggled with Romans 12, verse 14: “Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them.”

As a child who was bullied, and as a gay man who has been victim to countless microaggressions, I would like nothing more than to squash persecutors like the nasty little bugs they are.

As a Christian, though, I know that murder would not be a very Christ-like thing to do. But as a Southerner, I am quite good at blessing someone’s heart (if you’re from the South, you know exactly what I mean).

And so, dear persecutor, bless your heart. May God bless you with an abundance of empathy so that you can experience the blessing of feeling what others feel when they suffer.

Dear persecutor, bless your heart. May God bless you with the gift of poverty so that you might experience the blessing of learning to be fully reliant on God and the generous people she has placed in your life.

Beloved persecutor, bless your heart. May God bless you with illness that you cannot afford to treat so that you may experience the blessing of not taking a single moment of life for granted.

Family-focused persecutors, bless your heart. May God bless you with brothers, sisters, and children who are LGBTQ so that you can be directly blessed by their courageous journeys to simply be their authentic selves.

Dear persecutors with penises, bless your heart. May God shrink and dry up that tiny little appendage that you proudly call your manhood so that you might experience the blessing of knowing what true manhood is all about.

Dear melanin-lacking persecutors, bless your heart. May God place you in a setting where you are the minority, so that you may experience firsthand the blessings of cultures, traditions, and beliefs different from your own.

Oh, poor spiritually blind and deaf persecutors, bless your heart. May God speak so clearly and loudly and forcefully inside your heart and into your ears and right before your eyes so that you are unable to deny that you are a beloved child of God, created in God’s own image, and therefore have a God-given responsibility to recognize and honor that image as it is found in the infinitely divine diversity of humanity known as your neighbor.

There. I have obeyed Romans 12, verse 14. I have asked God to bless my persecutors with empathy, faith, trust, understanding, and full self-awareness. And may God bless me with the same, in whatever measure God knows I need.

Bless my heart.

Chosen Name

       I’ve wrestled with this post for a long time, for years, even. But it's been about 30 years in the making, and this camel’s back has finally been broken, so it’s time for me to say it:

I no longer want to be called a “Christian.”

That name has been sullied by white evangelical Americans who promote a false teaching of prosperity, domination, and socio-political control. They have blasphemed the name of Christ by treating “the least of these” with disregard, disrespect, and mental, emotional, spiritual, and sometimes even physical, abuse.

If I am to be an effective witness to the gospel of Jesus the Christ in this world, I cannot have the people to whom I am trying to share the Good News associate me with the mean-spirited population that comes to their minds. The population that denies science, demeans women and girls, speaks and acts violently towards LGBTQ people, rejects the immigrant, looks down on the black and brown children of God, and puts their wealth and power above the very words of Jesus the Christ, whom they claim to worship but whom they consistently blaspheme with their words and actions.

From now on, I wish to be called a Follower of the Way of Christ. I will look to the words and actions of Jesus the Christ as we know them in the gospels of Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John. All other scripture has its value within its historical, cultural, and linguistic context, but too much divisive doctrine and dogma have arisen from people’s opinions on those scriptures. Even Jesus’ words are subject to interpretation, but His message is clear: God loves you and desires your love in return, and God desires you to love others as you love yourself. Anything else is a distraction.

The Bible says that God has written God’s Word in our hearts. We need but search within to know the truth. Too many white evangelical Americans are allowing the lies and manipulations of a very un-Christlike group of people—and one individual, in particular—to overpower the voice of the Holy Spirit that is in their hearts. That makes me both sad and angry, for how many souls who need to know the true Good News of Jesus the Christ will never receive it because they think to be a Christian is to be hateful, mean, judgmental, and concerned mainly with individual power, control, and wealth.

I will continue to do my best to love God with all of my heart, mind, soul, and strength. I will continue to do my best to love my neighbor as myself. That’s all the doctrine I need. It’s not easy to do, especially when I feel that God is not near, that God does not care, or that God may even be a lie. It is not easy to do when my neighbor is hateful, violent, selfish, greedy, and harmful.

But I am constantly reminded that God is Love, and wherever love is, God is. Love is patient and kind. It does not envy or boast, it is not arrogant or rude. Those who love are born of God and know God, whether they acknowledge what is in their heart is God or not. If their hearts are full of love, then God knows them.

The one whose heart is full of love bears the fruit of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against such things.

White evangelical Americans have traded all these truths of God for the lies of white men who seek only their own good and the good of those who like and support them.

But I take heart in the words of Jesus, when he preached the sermon on the mount: “Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth.” Not the rich and powerful. Not the proud and boastful. The meek, who find their power in persisting in peace and humility. In the end, they will thrive while the powers and dominions turn to dust.

As a Follower of the Way of Christ, my emphasis is on living rightfully as a child of God in the community of all creation. I reject doctrine and dogma. Jesus had neither. He only showed love, mercy, and compassion to the least of these. I will strive to have a childlike faith because Jesus said we have to become like a little child to experience the realm of heaven. Children are uncorrupted by religion and politics. They, too, have no doctrine or dogma.

       The ones Jesus criticized most were the religious leaders, who had allied with empire to assert their own authority and control over people. He prayed to God, he worshipped God, and my hope in God is in Christ. I seek to do as Jesus did, and to speak words of mercy and love to those who need them most, as He did. May God help me to make it so.

Some reading this will respond with “amens” and “hallelujahs.” To you I say go in peace and power. Find your loving, Christ-following community and be comforted and grow strong in the Spirit. Some will roll their eyes and scroll on. To you I say, I hope you someday discover the light of God that you already carry in your heart, for you are created in God’s image. God has saved you, and that is Good News.

       But some will respond with judgment, telling me I am backslidden, a heretic, an apostate, and lost in spiritual darkness. I know who you are, because I used to be you. To you I say, get the plank out of your own eye before you pick at the speck in mine. Shut your mouths and disconnect from your devices long enough to hear what God—and not the deceiver—has to say to you in your hearts. If your heart is full of love, you will hear God’s voice. If your heart is full of anger, fear, and greed, the voice you hear will not be of God. And the words you speak will reveal your true thoughts and intentions to the world, for out of the mouth [or the fingertips] proceed the contents of the heart.

Do good deeds. Speak good words. Care for the poor and the oppressed. Do justice. Love kindness. Walk humbly with God. In community, build societal systems that will empower you to do this good in the world, for that is what God expects of us.

       Go and live in the Light of God’s Love, for the light of love is more powerful than the darkest of darknesses.

Why I'm probably going to hell (according to evangelicals)

Recently a woman I don't even know, who had never, ever communicated with me before, sent me a private message on social media explaining that I couldn't be gay and Christian and that if I didn't repent, I would burn in hell for all eternity. While I don't know this woman personally, she is the relative of a relative (one whom I barely know). But from what I do know about that family, I can assume with some confidence that they are conservative, evangelical Christians.

I never really considered myself an evangelical Christian, even though I have been involved with evangelical churches in the past. But because of those affiliations, I can understand where that line of thinking comes from. Evangelicals are notorious for being mean-spirited toward LGBTQ people (among others). So as I grew in my self-awareness, I grew in my understanding of God and Christ and grew further away from evangelical circles. Praise God for that!

Despite my growth over the years, her comments still bothered me. Then I started thinking about all the other reasons an evangelical would say I am bound for hell, and I realized I'm doomed by their standards on many points. So here's a list of other evangelical reasons I'm probably going to hell:

• I sometimes use she/her/they/them pronouns for God.
• I sometimes use mild profanity and even drop an F-bomb now and then (but I never use Jesus or Christ as swear words).
• I believe women and girls have the right to make their own reproductive choices.
• I believe loving guns is incompatible with the teachings of Jesus. 
• I believe there will be people of other religions, or no religion at all, in God’s close company in the hereafter. 
• I believe there will be Christians who will NOT be in God’s close company in the hereafter. 
• I believe sex outside of marriage is acceptable in some situations. 
• I believe if alcohol and tobacco are legal, then why not marijuana?
• I believe the love of money (and the power money brings) really is the root of all evil. 
• I believe in justice for the poor and the oppressed, and my voting habits reflect this belief. 
• I believe racism is a sin. 
• I believe for some people, their biological sex and their gender identity don’t align in a binary way. 
• I believe heaven and hell are states of being rather than literal, physical places. 
• I believe that the God who is Love will never, ever give up on a soul and will wait an eternity for that soul to find their way to God. 
• I believe that Christ is the Word of God, and not the Bible. 
• I believe the Bible is full of symbolism and figurative language—that’s what makes it timeless and universally relevant—and to take its words literally and out of context is not only stupid and lazy, it is dangerous. 
• I believe in the complete separation of church and state. 
• I believe school libraries should be filled with all kinds of age-appropriate books, and children should be free to read what they want with a librarian’s guidance. 
• I believe parents should mind their own damn business when it comes to public education unless they have advanced degrees in education. 
• I believe no one in this country—or in the world, really—should be unhoused, hungry, or unable to access quality healthcare. 
• I believe national borders may be against God’s will for humanity. 
• I believe science and critical thinking are gifts from God and are absolutely compatible with faith. 
• I believe the truth of God can be found in unexpected places: a Buddhist temple, a Sufi poem, a Wiccan ritual, a Jewish prayer—any place and any time the Light of Love is invited and embraced.

Now, I know that not every evangelical Christian relies on guilt, fear, and intimidation to spread the gospel (or their particular brand of the gospel, which in my opinion is anything but good news). And I may be picking at a speck while ignoring a plank. But God is Mystery, and God is Love. To reduce the gospel to a set of literal do's and don'ts that no one can fully live up to negates the very work of Jesus on the cross. When He said, "It is finished," I believe he meant all those do's and don'ts. And the rest of the Christian scriptures are pretty clear on that. The gospel is now available to all, no matter who you are, how you identify, or what you've done in the past. What matters is that you love God as completely as you can, and you love your neighbor as yourself. Those who do are close to the heart of God, a beautiful place of Light and Love. Those who don't are farther from the heart of God, a cold, lonely, dark place.

Let me ask you, evangelical: Are you living in the Light of that Love? Or are you so riddled with guilt and shame or the desperate need to control others that you deflect your feelings onto the scapegoat du jour, which today is mainly LGBTQ people, just so you can feel more righteous about yourself? Why do you feel that God wants you to possess instruments of death? Why do you think God loves America more than any other country? Why do you seem to hold the U.S. Constitution in higher regard than the words of Jesus? Why do you love unborn fetuses more than the women who bear them? Why do you hoard wealth for yourselves while your neighbor goes homeless, hungry, and ill? Why do you deny facts revealed by the scientific process? Why do you seek to control others and take away their freedom (in Christ!) to be themselves and to think for themselves and to work out their own salvation in their own way?

None of us are perfect, but it is in our imperfections that we more fully experience God's grace. As a gay man, I have an understanding of that grace that I wouldn't fully understand if I were straight, because then I would just be another straight, white, cis-gendered man, meaning I would be among the most powerful in this society. And Jesus is quite clear that God chooses the weak and vulnerable to embody God's grace and accomplish God's purposes. Perhaps I am gay because God needs LGBTQ people to teach others that all are welcome at God's table, just as they are. Perhaps I enjoy a good marriage to another man as an example of how relationships for LGBTQ people aren't that different from those of straight people. I don't know. My story isn't finished yet. But I won't let your judgment and condemnation stop my story from unfolding. God is doing a good work in me. Will you open your hearts and minds to God's expansive, inclusive love so God can do good works in you, too?

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